There is this phrase, “at least you are trying”, where I just don’t get the thinking behind it.
Somebody wrote this comment on Macon’s blog:
We have to allow people the freedom to find their way. Especially if what they’re asking/saying isn’t racist, just perceived to be so by people who, if I may, are seemingly determined to show Macon in a bad light.
Yes, I can agree that people must have the freedom to find their way.
I even can respect that getting rid of the stereotypes and racism whites have learned seems to be quite a struggle for some or many whites. Because I think, racism is not just about learned behavior/thoughts but a much deeper psychological disease and a general way to look at life and to relate to people.
Just a few days ago I got to understand once again that whites can make the choice to ignore the reality of other people but to make a drama out of their own issues as if the world broke apart. Their own world. The world they watch with a certain naivity sometimes.
But what I don’t agree with is that whites give themselves labels like “anti-racists” and then all mistakes should be overlooked.
I don’t want to comment on the rest of the above comment I linked to, but it raised a question for me, and this question I sent as a comment to Stuffwhitepeopledo. The first time was some days ago, he didn’t publish it, ok, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and sent it a second time, again he didn’t publish it.
The comment is:
“There is a question I want to ask to everybody who feels addressed or wants to answer: Would you accept somebody as a teacher who doesn’t truly understand the concept of what s/he is teaching?
Is the “trying” to understand enough to be willing to learn from somebody?
There is something I can watch as a typical white tendency, the “code word” “at least s/he is trying” lets accept many wrongs. Why? This “at least they are trying not to be racist” nonetheless kills people on a daily basis, the victims of white supremacy. And how long do white people believe that “just trying” is good enough? Why the low standard for the white self-declared teachers about racism?
We write the year 2009. We whites consider ourself as ‘progressive’ and ‘civilized’ and praise each other, when we think that one of us somehow “gets it”, at least a little bit.
But somebody is either racist or anti-racist, there is no in between, even if whites do have the privilege to invent the in between, the “trying” and “unmaking” “
I don’t truly understand his reason, besides my thought that I probably struck a nerve, why he was so scared about the post that he refused to publish it, like he also refused sometimes to publish comments by Restructure and Nquest. If somebody white is honest with his anti-racism there is no reason to be afraid of criticism.
Macon D probably considers it as a success, because he discourages some members to post any longer on his blog or like Restructure wrote, he influences the way, she comments. But he is probably unable to see his own white supremacy in action doing this.