There is nothing wrong with where somebody grew up, parents make such choices, not children.
But when adult people come along, saying that they are ‘just learning’ about racism etc., I do wonder.
I wonder how that works to live within an illusional soap bubble. And I also wonder about the approach many white people seem to choose when it comes to the alleged new enlightment that race, also their own, does indeed exist in a system where race is a social construct. ‘Studying’ racism which is so ‘complicated’ that it takes years to get it? White people who say, that racism is something they can’t feel, because they are not affected, a statement which is somehow a declaration of bankrupt of one’s own humanity. Do such whites never cry when they learn about a racist incident for example? Is Sean Bell so far away from them, because they are white and he was Black?
How long does it take to read McIntosh’s article about white privilege? 10 minutes? And therefore it should also only take 10 minutes to realize and acknowledge white privilege. But for many whites white privilege comes like a shock and awe, weird feelings of personal guilt and a phase of denial. Some or many prefer to remain in an everlasting state of denial.
Talks about race become ‘tricky’, difficult and some make the choice to intellectualize the topic until it becomes so abstract that it becomes somewhat surreal.
And this because growing up in an all-white area as some white people claim.
To continue this way of thinking it would need non-white people who expose themselves to whites, so that whites can get ‘used’ to people who don’t look like them.
But no, it isn’t a lack of being exposed to PoC, it is this unconsious feeling of superiority on the one hand and a severe lack in many white people’s brain to see beyond race to see the human being.
It is common sense and social competence I think what white people should learn, as well as empathy. This would also make white-white relationships much more honest and enriching.
Respecting somebody else’s experiences and feelings would be the first step to understand issues about race.