I am a fan of the book 1984 by George Orwell. The book is about manipulating truth.
Discussing with white people sometimes becomes like reading George Orwell. Those who have the power change the truth, even of their own words. And even on internet, where everybody else could read what they write. Including their own contradictions.
I would like to continue what Nquest once started (Nquest, if you don’t mind).
“I am on your side”
An out of the blue comment by a liberal white, who then tries to control his opponent
“You chase your allies away”
be nice, regardless what people say to you, because s/he is “on your side” [see above]
“Do you call me racist”
when actually nobody did
“Things are better today”
“always these talks about race”
when the same people have no issues with starting one thread after the next which is against People of Color, but get ‘sensitive’, when it is about whiteness and racism.
“Mentioning race perpetuates racism”
“You dominate the discussion”
Being challenged hurts white people and this is often the call for a moderator to interfere [restricting or banning of people who don’t accept racist posts]
“Don’t use the term White Supremacy”
“I never said that”
(even if it is posted a few posts earlier by the same poster)
White people approaching People of Color, sometimes also saying in addition:
“it is in your best interest”
“I will listen to you”
only to reject what they get to hear
“Refrain from personal attacks”
Again the call to the moderator and regardless if there actually was a personal attack.
“Nobody will listen to you because of your style”
Making the style an issue instead the content of a message, trying to control and to distract from the topic.